here is how I see it:

IT doesn’t matter how she feels and what not because right now

she did you wrong

and if you will EVER be together (and I am neither for nor against this p.s.) I do think she needs to fully buy in and fully put herself in this

in a new way

and the only way to see if she ever does that

is by blowing all the bridges to hell

and seeing if she can still get from where she is to where you are